Tuesday, October 03, 2006
Reflections of Marriage
Reflecting today I realized that my husband have been together going on 5 years of marriage next year. That means we've been together 6 years. We've been acquaintances, friends on and off, dating and then married. That means we've known each other 16 years over half our lives. Time flies and people grow! Marriage like stew gets better after it simmers for awhile.
I remember when we first started dating and he would do things that were so hurtful that I would ask people if they really thought someone could be so thoughtless and not mean it and they replied, "normally not, but with Jason yes!" (Don't get mad at him yet you haven't heard the ending.) I also remember when we first started dating he was so happy to learn that I had to stay slim in order to keep my back out of pain so he determined that I'd always have to be in shape.
However, we had a baby and I put on weight and he still calls me beautiful even when I feel far from it at times. He is patient with me at times when I can't stand myself so I know he can't stand me but he still stands by me. He still makes me laugh. He still makes me smile and he still gets mad and protective if he thinks someone has hurt my feelings. No girls the story didn't end but with time it did get a lot better!
I remember early in our relationship I would not do some things he asked because I felt taken for granted. I felt like he was taking to much and not giving enough. I realize now it was my selfishness getting in the way of a blessing I might have received if I'd perceived it differently. I now try my best to put what he ask on the top of my to do list. Although I don't get it all done at times I do make a honest attempt because as his wife it is my job to be his helpmate. To try and make him the best he can be, and he does his best to support and provide me with every thing I need or want.
Through the years we've been stretched pencil thin at times and at others filled to overflowing at the blessings God has given us. We've learned to lean on God and each other as we watch how God transforms us and our relationship with time. With God we know that it will only get better if we continue to lean not on our understanding but on His. God has taught us to be helpmates and friends. He's a keeper!
Stephanie
I remember when we first started dating and he would do things that were so hurtful that I would ask people if they really thought someone could be so thoughtless and not mean it and they replied, "normally not, but with Jason yes!" (Don't get mad at him yet you haven't heard the ending.) I also remember when we first started dating he was so happy to learn that I had to stay slim in order to keep my back out of pain so he determined that I'd always have to be in shape.
However, we had a baby and I put on weight and he still calls me beautiful even when I feel far from it at times. He is patient with me at times when I can't stand myself so I know he can't stand me but he still stands by me. He still makes me laugh. He still makes me smile and he still gets mad and protective if he thinks someone has hurt my feelings. No girls the story didn't end but with time it did get a lot better!
I remember early in our relationship I would not do some things he asked because I felt taken for granted. I felt like he was taking to much and not giving enough. I realize now it was my selfishness getting in the way of a blessing I might have received if I'd perceived it differently. I now try my best to put what he ask on the top of my to do list. Although I don't get it all done at times I do make a honest attempt because as his wife it is my job to be his helpmate. To try and make him the best he can be, and he does his best to support and provide me with every thing I need or want.
Through the years we've been stretched pencil thin at times and at others filled to overflowing at the blessings God has given us. We've learned to lean on God and each other as we watch how God transforms us and our relationship with time. With God we know that it will only get better if we continue to lean not on our understanding but on His. God has taught us to be helpmates and friends. He's a keeper!
Stephanie
2 Comments:
It has taken me a couple of days to find you. What a small little world we live in. Thanks for emailing...we do have some things in common. Te pictures I post are from Webshots.com....most are of the Smokies...were we visit every fall.
Come back and visit...
Jen
Five years??? Almost like five days. I could not have asked for a more wonder, kind a gracious person, although you could have. Thank you, my love, for all the things that I notice and comment on, and all the countless things that I overlook. You are more than I hoped for, so much more than I deserve. I love you.
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